You know… I wish someone would have told me a long time ago that all adults are scary, even after you become an adult. It’s taken me a few years to realize this, but after 100’s (if not 1,000’s) of personal meetings, counseling sessions, leadership pow-wows, conflict resolution sit-downs and so on, I can confidently say that everyone is at least a little scared of everyone else.
Well, I would suggest an old adversary (older than time itself) — SIN. We were created for community. We were created for love and friendship and deep relationship. When sin entered into the world and consequently the hearts and lives of humanity, we lost shalom (a beautiful Hebrew word that means perfect peace — an excellent little article about this word can be found here: http://20schemes.com/2013/is-it-really-our-job-to-bring-peace-to-our-communities/).
REMOVING THE FEAR FACTOR
With perfect peace in our relationships gone, trust flew right out the window. Truth be told . . . I don’t trust you and you don’t really trust me either! At least not naturally.
Trust must be established and proven.
A process which begins with the first approach/conversation.
HOW APPROACHABLE ARE YOU?
I’ve been thinking a lot about how well I receive advice, ideas or correction. When approached by a member of our church or cornered by an enthusiastic leader who has ideas about how I could do things differently… how do I receive such advise, ideas or correction?
How do you receive advice, correction or ideas that may alter your idea? Do you thoughtlessly reject others or do you respond with humility?
SCRIPTURE PROVIDES WISDOM
“By insolence comes nothing but strife, but with those who take advice is wisdom” Proverbs 13:10
“A rebuke goes deeper into a man of understanding than a hundred blows into a fool.” Proverbs 17:10
“Listen to advice and accept instruction, that you may gain wisdom in the future.” Proverbs 19:20
“Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.” Philippians 2:3-4
“When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with the humble is wisdom.” Proverbs 11:2
“Clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility toward one another, for God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble. Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you…” 1 Peter 5:5-6
The truth is, you are scary than you think! The good news is, you can control the fear . . . it’s funny . . . when you remove fear for someone else walls that would naturally separate us . . . they just come down!